Thursday, April 17, 2014

When We Know Better, We Do Better

Car Seat Safety

It's a passion of mine. That's not a secret.

Friends message me daily asking for car seat advice, they send me pictures to make sure they are buckling their children properly. I have people drive to my house so that I can install their car seat and adjust the straps on their seats to make sure they are doing it properly 100% of the time. 

I'm not a CPST... yet. Let me make that clear. I have plans to take my courses, but I have not yet done them. Hopefully soon I can say I'm certified, but for now it's just because I'm a mom who has a passion for keeping my children safe 100% of the time while traveling in a motor vehicle.

But, did you know I've not always been a car seat "know it all?" Did you know I used to make A LOT of deadly mistakes? Did you know that I once used aftermarket products? Did you know that my straps did not always pass the pinch test? Did you know that I didn't always place the CHEST clip on the CHEST?

Well, I once made a lot of deadly mistakes when my son was little. Mistakes that I'm so incredibly ashamed about. Mistakes that could have cost my child his life had we been in a motor vehicle accident.

Did you know...
That motor vehicle accidents are the number 1 cause of children deaths under 15 years of age? 

Number One

Cause of


Under the age of 

Fifteen Years.

That's scary. That's enough reason for me to make sure my children are buckled in properly, in the proper seat, installed properly. Every time. No matter what.

So... while I may be a car seat "know it all" and many roll their eyes at my car seat posts on Facebook, I wasn't always this "obsessive."

I was pretty ignorant actually and I just thank God every day that an accident didn't occur when my child was not strapped in properly.

I whole-heartedly wish someone would have called me out, whether publicly or privately... shit, I wish someone would have slapped me across the face... 

Kind of like this...

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Because I was risking my child's life. 

But I had no idea at the time. So I needed a slap into reality.

So here you have it folks, my mistakes before I knew how to properly use my car seats every time to keep my children safe for every vehicle ride.

I cringe every single time I look at these pictures. What was I thinking? I wasn't... I wish I could go back to these days and see what was going through my head as I buckled him into his car seat like this. I'm ashamed at how ignorant I was and how much danger I put my child into. One accident... that's all it could have taken to take my baby boy right out of our lives forever. One minor accident. 

I thank God every single day that he spared us and we were never in an accident because I do not even want to think about how our lives could be today had one occurred.

Since my son was about 10 months old, I opened my eyes to the importance of car seat safety and I take the extra few minutes each and every time to make sure my children are buckled in properly, every single time.

I hope you can relate to this and have either already made the conscious decision to properly buckle your children in 100% of the time or will from here on out. It takes one accident. Don't become a statistic. Let's spread the importance of car seat safety!

Until next time, friends

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

I'm Not Better Than You!!

I am so tired of people telling me that I'm not any better than they are. Of course I'm NOT any better than you. When did I ever say I was a better wife, a better parent, a better woman, a better rider, a better what-the-fuck-ever you think I'm "better" at than you?!


Why are so many people getting so butt-hurt when someone does something "against the grain" these days instead of following "fads" and "trends?"

I'm not better than you. I've never claimed to be better than you. I will never be better than you.

Do we have that clear?



So I cloth diaper... and I babywear... and I bedshare/cosleep some nights... and I practice strict car seat safety... and I "practice" attachment parenting... and I breastfeed... and I do things differently than you.

When I am having a conversation and a topic comes up and I'm "different" than others, I am not attacking you. I am not insinuating my way is better than yours. I am giving you another perspective, just like you asked.

This has been a topic among many mommy groups I'm involved in. When people, not just parents, do things differently we're looked at like the people with tinfoil on their heads to ward off aliens. We are called "stupid Hippies..." I've heard "tree hugger." "Earth kisser." Really off-the-wall "insults." I've even been called off-the-wall names... All because women that are like-minded as I am don't follow the fad trends of the modern day world. We do things differently so we automatically think we're "better" than you because we choose to think outside the box... Gotcha

I don't know about you, but I don't see the correlation.

I am NOT better than you.

So when you post a rant on Facebook. Or when you ASK me for own personal opinion. Or you vent to me face to face...
Do not be surprised if you don't hear what you WANT to hear. Don't be surprised when what comes out of my mouth does not align with your thinking. Don't be surprised if I'm brutally honest.

Because, folks, I'm honest. That's just how it is. You don't want to hear the truth?! Do not... I repeat. Do NOT ask me for my opinion. I will spout off exactly what I'm feeling and thinking right down the the very last painfully honest letter.

But. I have never once thought I was better than any other person out there. I just do things differently than most.

So don't feel attacked. Don't feel offended. Embrace someone else's point-of-view. Take what you want and leave the rest.

I am not better than you.

Until next time, friends

Wedding Anniversary!

Today Ben and I celebrate our 3rd Wedding Anniversary! It's easy but hard to believe that 3 years have already passed since the day I walked down the aisle with the love of my life standing at the other end. I have been so immensely blessed to be in his life and to call this life our own. God knew what he was doing, but he always does. He has so intricately planned out this life we are living and it is full, so very full!

I cannot imagine life without Ben and I pray I never have to. I'm grateful for him, I'm blessed beyond measure for him. He's the best husband I could have ever asked for. 

Pictures on our wedding day do not do justice the amount of love and happiness this day, 3 yeas ago today, held. They just do not capture it. It was the happiest day, a day filled with so much love and celebration. Despite the rain, the day was absolutely beautiful. I will never forget how hard it rained that day, but it just makes our day unique, just like our marriage and our friendship. 

Gosh... Looking back on this day, it's evident it was so full of love, happiness and celebration. I wish I could relive this day every single year! Our marriage has been so amazing over the last 3 years and I look foward to many, many more happy years! I cannot wait to see what the future holds for us! 

I want to thank everyone who helped make our day so special. Everyone who took time out of their day to to make our day what it was and to help us celebrate! We appreciate each and every one of you!

Until next time, friends